William Glasser and me

Word is that William Glasser is a pretty important person in the world of psychotherapy.

In "Glasser World" there are five basic needs, four if you leave off Survival. (as if that were possible).

Count the other four on your fingers like this:

FUN - Crook your index finger, "Come play with me."

POWER - extend your middle finger - a-ha!

LOVE and BELONGING - the ring finger, naturally

FREEDOM - pinky finger went "wee wee wee all the wya home," and apparently took his sweet time doing it.

It is simplistic to break down human need that way.

Not human WANT, however.

That's entirely different.

the Question today was - what do you do when you don't get what you WANT?

The question was phrased in the context of coaching, but it made me think personally nonetheless.

First of all, I would rather be wanted than needed. And if I don't get what I want i pout, big time.

And sulk. and hide. and avoid.

There is so much I want that I know I cannot have. My (almost) Bhuddist friend would tell me that as soon as i give up the wanting I will find joy.

I am not so sure.....

I will let you ponder that one for a while.

Earlier I linked White Stripes' Walking with a Ghost.

Tonight I was "saved" by an angel who kept me from falling into traffic.

No, dear reader, I was completely sober, but miscalculated the slippery slope I was on.

Physiclly and metaphorically, I suppose.

i was in no real danger, but it never hurts to let others feel they are needed and important.

All is well that - well, you know the rest.

If this one ends well, I am forever in debt.

Rolling Stones "You can't always get what you WANT"

a little video of an equally non-bhuddist man